Wading in the Velvet Sea

THIS IS MY FIRST POST SO TAKE IT EASY. MOVED TO VIRGINIA FOR A JOB FROM CHICAGO, FIANCE JUST LEFT ME AND SO IM IN THE HUNT I BELIEVE IT IS CALLED, (IT HAS BEEN SO LONG)THIS WHOLE "O" THING IS VERY INTERESTING TO ME BECAUSE I ALMOST ALWAYS MADE MY GIRL HIT IT AT LEAST ONCE BUT IT TOOK US SEVERAL SEVERAL MONTHS TO GET TO THAT COMFORT ZONE. MOSTLY IT WAS HER WHO COULDN'T RELAX ENOUGH TO GET THERE. NOW THAT I'M SINGLE AGAIN I HAVE TO LEARN THIS ALL OVER WITH THE NEXT ONE I'M WITH OR HOPEFULLY I WILL BE WITH A HELL CAT THAT WILL TAKE US BOTH THERE RIGHT OFF THE BAT. I'M READY FOR IT HOPE SHES OUT THERE. IT HAS HAPPENED BEFORE BUT JUST A SIDE NOTE, OLDER WOMEN I MEAN LIKE 32 TO 40 ARE USUALLY A LOT EASIER TO GET TO THAT SPOT THAN THOSE 21 YEAR OLDS I GUESS THE WHOLE BODY COMFORT THING MIGHT REALLY BE TRUE, SO WHAT DO YOU THINK???

I think you should switch to decaf. Lower case letters are your friend, man.

First off, don't yell. It turns the ladies off. Other than that, a good first posting.

Oh sorry,,,didn't real notice.Thanks Commando for noticing the important things.

BTW, sorry about your fiance. Remember that in times like these, beer is your friend.

Ah, much better!

Given the topic at hand, calling Tim "Commando" makes me giggle.

Yes me and beer have come to be good friends again! Liquid courage can really help out in times like these. And since I know not a person in this town, where else but the local tavern.

Where in VA are you?

I giggle with you Ryan.

Commando Tim is the Master of his Domain!

So taking back the orgasm.. step one ladies: determine what really makes you lose it (I.e. dirty talk, neck/shoulder biting, sweet caresses, whatever) and begin enticing your man with whispers of what you'd like him to do to you. Return with hints of what you may do to him. This is a fabulous jumping off point to build your own confidence and put your man under the spell.

I just moved to Lynchburg, where I now work for the competitor of my former employer.

I have determined what does it for me. I just need someone to do it to me. Oh, that sounds bad.

I live in Roanoke, 45 minutes to the west. I'd offer to tell you where to hang out for the ladies, but I don't hang out in Lynchburg. I find the people a little wierd.

You know what else is good, besides beer?

Seagram's. That's right. Bring on the whiskey.

Yeah, whiskey. A 7&7. Or Jack and ginger. Another good one is Crown Royal and Vanilla Coke, though it is a bit on the sweet side. Also, vanilla Stoli or Absolut with coke.

Man, I love this bar talk!

*spins and does a two-handed point*

Whiskey? I dunno. Whiskey can lead to things.

So can Jager.

So, this is a contest? Are there prizes? (Selfishness is a key factor to the deisred outcome here)

I prefer Gentlemen Jack w/ an oz. of sprite. Or an Ice cold, I mean ICE cold beer. On another note, People weird in Lynchburg? I just left Chicago to a town the size of a walnut. I will be heading to Roanoke sometimes to see the big city, where are the places to meet women? I heard something about a beef place company or something like that. And Heather had some great ideas I wish more women were like that what a turn -on!!!

I realize that there may be some culture shock in moving from Metropolis to Mayberry, but the people in general are just different.

Things, Ryan? What sort of mysterious and vague "things" are we talking about here? ;)

I heard this rumor once that people who drink often hook up. I wouldn't know, being both a non-drinker and a virgin.

The hook up could lead to the O-face. So perhaps you shoud start drinking and experimenting.

I had a roommate say that to me once. He luckily moved out soon after.

Excellent comment Lori. So is everyone in agreeance that in order to faciitate the agenda of TBTO we must all go out and get sloshed? Loosen our inhibitions if you will? And yes, whiskey makes you do devilish things like scream at your man for NO reason and walk five miles to the local high school at 3 in the morning. Yep, that's right... I'm smart too, Marc.

Yes people in Lynchburg are different then what I'm use to, that was one of the reasons I came more to the south, where I find it to be a less hostile environment.

Yes- we southerners are pretty darn sweet, specially down here in Chalston, South Careliiina.

Southern girls are the best, right Heather? Sweet, smart, and sassy as my friend zac puts it.

Liquor causes all kinds of things. I like to hookup with my best friend and give the guys a show after quite a few ounces of various liquors. As for Operation OFACE: check out this website!!

www.ratemycock.com

WOW Heather, sounds like your smart, great in bed and even have an accent, your like the perfect woman, so you must experience the "O" often? I'm still confused about the school at 3am though?

A friend of mine informed me that 10 sneezes is the same as an orgasm, on the basis of some "questionable" scientific data relating to endorphins-what have you released during each process.

Lori... are you a GRITS member too? (For those of you who are southernly challenged, that's Girls Raised In The South) And yes, we are the best. We know many tricks, good and bad, and have an entire vernacular that seems to baffle most of the nation.

WOW! Thanks for the compliments Marc... would never say I was perfect. Yeah- I'm a firm believer in OFACE, which of course means that I personally strive to live the dreams of the organization. My fiance helps me to achieve those personal and professional goals on a regular basis. The 3 am reference was about a horrible incident involving me, too much brown liquor, an astronomical fight over nothing, then me proceeding to walk five miles from my house where upon realizing that I'd made it to the HS, I also realized I must have fallen bc of the huge hole in my jeans. I walked home, like the smelly drunk I was and groveled.

I am a member of GRITS, complete with the t-shirt saying so.

And the Heather Harem has begun, it seems...

I somehow just can't accept "Get women drunk" as an acceptable dating technique, as successful as it seems to be.

Yet you're always trying to get me sauced, Tim "Pecs" Foley. Hmmm...

Heather I knew there was something wrong with you that is why I said "like the perfect women".

And Lori a GRITS t-shirt??? I just had visions of bare feet and missing teeth. Please say it ain't so!

Shame on you! It's a perfectly respectable lavender t-shirt with the profile of a woman in a sun hat forming and the word GRITS with Girls Raised in the South underneath. I have all my teeth and more than enough shoes to not have to go barefoot. Though bare feet running through grass is a great feeling.

Commander, no one ever said anything about dating. I believe it was just plain old sex that was the ends to the means. But being the chivalrous one that you are, I can't see you getting a girl sauced just to see her panties. And that is why we love you.
Gee Ryan, what male roommate was it that was trying to get you to experiment? First name rhyme with shim?

Tim and I weren't roomies until after college, and my college story is all made up, anyways.

See what your lies have done, McGee?

Now now Commando- I'm not suggesting that you fellas run out and feed a girl a few drinks, then demand that she show the O face. But, we all have a tendency to let down our guard when we booze, especially if we're with someone we care about like, boyfriend for example. Maybe under these conditions, you both will be more inclined to do or say those risky things you can't say when you make, er, sober love. Thus opening the door for OFACE.

Marc- sorry to disappoint.
Lori- where are you from?

ooooooooooookay.

Foley, its nice to know that there is some men out there that are "protective" in a sense to women's needs. No chance I will seemingly ever meet that kind of guy here in Indiana that also has the physique to go with. AND ps you don't have to of been a southern born individual to have missing teeth and run barefoot, they are EVERY WHERE. IF I could erase the line a whino said to me "you sure do gotta purddy moUth". I certainly would.

Ry- I knew you were being facetious with the roommate remark.
Tim - I don't believe for a minute that you would try to take advantage of Ryan. It would be the other way around.
Heather - I'm from Roanoke, VA.

Lori, there's sadly a picture that proves your theory right. Just need to scan it.

"Maybe under these conditions, you both will be more inclined to do or say those risky things you can't say when you make, er, sober love."

Speaking as one who doesn't drink at all, I personally can't imagine what this would be (although granted, I'm speaking for myself and not myself and some ficitonal partner). The issues are comfort, trust, communication and relaxation, and your mileage may vary on whether alcohol has anything to do with the above. Some folks go for the whisky sauce, some for the chocolate sauce, is all I'm saying.

Those issues listed by you, Commander, along with love, are what will make sex for me wonderful and beautiful regardless of achieving the O. But with those ingredients, it's pretty much a given.

K, Commander, point taken. Jada- so sorry to hear of your ordeal. My mental picture includes images from the homeless demons in "Devils Advocate." ICK!

Ryan- where's the photo? *pant* pant*

Sorry Lori it was the first thing that came to my mind!

I guess it comes down to what you want at the time, alcohol can loosen people up alot and if your looking for that one night sex thing there is NO better way to get it. Even in a relationship, sex is so different when your drunk than when its that everyday sex. Just have fun and if your in it for LOVE and all that liquor him/her up anyway you might see a whole new beast you didn' know you had!

Sorry Lori it was the first thing that came to my mind!

I guess it comes down to what you want at the time, alcohol can loosen people up alot and if your looking for that one night sex thing there is NO better way to get it. Even in a relationship, sex is so different when your drunk than when its that everyday sex. Just have fun and if your in it for LOVE and all that liquor him/her up anyway you might see a whole new beast you didn' know you had!

I really think its about the couple, ya know the comfort level. Also the individual as well. The woman needs to feel good about her persona, sexuality, ect ect. Aspire to be like Aphrodite sensual and sexy.

Although I have had some Seriously hott kissing that was better than sex.

And I have had climax-less experiences that have surpased those with a climax due to the level of intimacy involved. TBTO is a great concept, but it's not the ultimate fulfillment.

Lots going on here, so I'll just say this...not to be too depressing or morbid, but in some states (or colleges) you cannot legally give consent to sex if you are drunk or high. I have a real problem with the "get em drunk" technique. Commander is more on the right track, methinks.

Back to frivolity.

Well, the Commander should be seeing more ass than a rental car, but he's not. Ergo, the "right" way sadly doesn't always "win".

Hate to put it terms of win/lose, but you get the pictures.

Megan, you're in NYC, send the UNICEF Brigade to frisk him or something.

On the subject of the Commander, I wouldn't consider the fact that I'm currently single to be a reflection of anything. Over the past four years, I've been in a serious relationship 81.25% of the time (yeah, I just did the math, but that only took two minutes). That certainly doesn't sound like "losing" to me.

Besides, I *always* play to win.

You've definitely been fortunate to find those for whom your style is appealing. Sorry that I wish more were beating down your door, amigo.

I don't see where the Commander's style wouldn't be appealing. "Hmmm, a guy who's good looking, is smart and funny, and respectful of women. No, he's not really my type."

Yea, well, two weeks ago a girl told _me_ that i was much too nice, and therefore she could never hook up with me.

And that's me we're talking about. Ouch.

Obviously she has not embraced her Inner Agapi.

Was once told by someone I was dating that if it hadn't been for her shrink, she would've already broken up with me for "all the wrong reasons." I think there *is* something to this Inner Agapi thing after all.